Believe me when I say that I have had to put away ever bit of adoption knowledge we ever read, (and we read a lot because of Cav.)
So today was such an amazing experience . . . so much so I wanted to stand on top of the mountains and scream so people could hear me.
This story is as much for us as it is for you. To remember that God very much is at work, uses the least of these to do His work. We are his humble servants, listening at His whispers without including our own humanness.
So we have transferred from football to wrestling. Besides our big boy I have 2 little ones who are crazy about wrestling. In addition, the high schoolers love Brahm and Tao ( they love Cav too, but he just isn't quite ready to wrestle yet.)
|Tao sat to watch the mat be lifted to the ceiling, and two high schoolers plopped right down next to him!|
This morning as I was getting kids ready to come for our first all day tournament, Tao threw a fit (far and few between but really the kid is 3 - it's normal.) I just felt he was supposed to be with us, so we finally calmed him down although we ended up missing big brother's first match.
Anyhow, midway through the day, this big cowboy stood next to where we sat on the bleachers, and struck up a conversation with Tao. I am talking cowboy hat, huge belt buckle EVERYTHING! We left and came back and the man drifted towards us again (not in a creepy way - he had come from Oklahoma to watch his nephew wrestle LOL).
AS this cowboy was talking to us and playing with Tao - one of the coaches from the christian school came up and asked if Tao was Chinese, I told him his story and we got to chatting. The cowboy told my friend his parents had been a missionary in Korea. We chatted with the cowboy some more and the baby gravitated towards him. I think I have mentioned before but Tao loves being up, and held. I assured the cowboy it was ok to pick him up.
Now comes the God part! We asked if he had any kids - one he said and she was 32. I asked if he had grandkids, because truly this man was wonderful with Tao. I saw the tears behind his eyes (and I thought oh no don't make him cry in this noisy auditorium filled with wrestling matches and screaming parents LOL). As he proceeded to tell us this story I watched Tao snuggle against this man's chest, heart to heart and lay quietly, completely at peace.
He proceeded to tell us he got a girl pregnant at 18, and paid for an abortion. He entered the pro rodeo circuit and knew he would never be home to care for a child. She couldn't go through with it, and luckily was able to go into a home for unwed mothers. They cared for her until she delivered the baby. He had to go to court to relinquish his rights as a parent (and it sounds like it was a horrible experience.) The child found him years later. She was raised by a doctor and had, had a great life.
And as I stared at this gruff man, in the black hat, snuggling a once unwanted baby, I prayed that this somehow would heal a heart that was still wounded 32 years later.
I assured him that he had made the right and most unselfish decision.
He held that baby for another 30 minutes, as he slept. Hours later when we left, I sent Tao over to say good bye (he also bought the little boys candy LOL!)
He hugged our little boy, and then quickly left the gym, head down. I pray for his healing, and marvel at how God can use a tiny 3 year old in the craziest of places.
I know nothing of this man's faith, but I did speak of ours. IF he isn't a believer I pray that this would open a door for him.